Hi Everyone,
So nice to be back! The practice has been so busy I let the blog get away from me, but I would very much like to try and pick it up again. I realized I am creating content for my psychotherapy group weekly that perhaps others could benefit from. There are variations on TikTok and Insta under the addictiontherapynyc name as well….SO….without further ado……here we go – let me know if there is a topic you’d like me to cover – you can always email me at andrew@addictiontherapynyc.com – pass it on! Have a great day!
Weekly Quote:
“Social awkwardness is not a reflection of your worth; it’s merely the mind’s way of reminding you to be kind to yourself.” — Richelle E. Goodrich
Contemplation:
~ Socialization without intoxication???? Baaaaaa!!! Impossible…..don’t they call it a social lubricant for a reason? Besides….it just makes everything……easier……doesn’t it???? until it doesn’t. Remember no one flew into recovery on the wings of glory. But going naked can be tough…..its just going to be me out there with all those annoying thoughts and insecurities – what will I say? What do I do? Do they like me? Am I even making sense? Why don’t they serve non-alcoholic beer? Well….imagine if you could feel like you have more control in your own skin without all those nasty consequences drugs and alcohol provide that supposedly make it easier….would that be attractive to you?
Tip for the Week:
~ Know that practicing getting socially comfortable in your own skin leads to acceptance of yourself and increased at-ease….ness….is that a word? The point is to practice. Here are 3 ways to support yourself in social situations without drinking or drugging:
- Plan Ahead:
Before attending a social event, prepare yourself mentally by reminding yourself why you chose sobriety and the benefits it brings to your life.
Plan your exit strategy in case you start feeling uncomfortable or triggered. Have a friend you can call for support or arrange transportation to leave if needed.
If possible, talk to the host or a trusted friend in advance about your sobriety. They can provide support and help create a more alcohol-free-friendly environment.
2. Find Sober Activities and Support:
Seek out social activities that don’t revolve around alcohol. Look for events like movie nights, sports, hiking, or hobby groups that align with your interests.
Connect with support groups or individuals who are also in recovery. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can be immensely helpful. Attend Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings or other relevant support groups in your area.
Consider enlisting the support of a sponsor or mentor in your recovery program who can offer guidance and encouragement.
3. Practice Assertiveness and Self-Care:
Learn to assertively and politely decline offers of alcohol. You can simply say, “No, thank you” or “I’m not drinking tonight.” You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Focus on self-care to reduce stress and anxiety, which can trigger cravings. This includes getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing or mindfulness.
Surround yourself with positive influences and people who support your sobriety. Limit contact with those who may encourage or pressure you to drink.
